DON'T GET IT TWISTED!!

(While it’s nice to know some of you are reading the blog, you should be putting comments on the blog. Not texting or emailing me.  But I’ll try to be patient as you get used to the idea.)

But to the business at hand! (and p.s. – Grasshopper may want to pay attention)

For those not in the know, several months ago I started sending little inspirational quotes and sayings to friends every morning, and some were passing them on to others, etc. Well the messages evolved (because my thinking became even more haphazard), and the texts got longer. A friend suggested I do a blog, this way everybody can read the posting and comment. That’s how we got here!!

I’ve been getting some good feedback. But there are a couple of things I need to address cause some of you are TRIPPIN! Maybe it’s the heat wave. But I’m gonna turn the hose on this bullshit right now!!

A.      This one is to Z: I’ve never considered myself to be a religious person, but I’ve always thought myself a spiritual one.  Cause you never realized that in the many years you’ve known me sounds like some faulty wiring in your processing.  I will use scripture from time to time because it relates in some way to what I want to say.  If you can’t deal, or think it inappropriate in this venue, then don’t read.  This is my blog!

B.      This is to S: Yeah, I started a blog. Does this make me more important than anyone else? No. It just makes me somebody who started a blog. Your low self esteem is not my problem (but maybe this blog will help you with that).  If you spend less time criticizing and attempting to knock down others, you’ll have more time to focus on building you up!

C.      This is to Q: (Backdrop: Q has been divorced about 4 years and has 3 children, and she’s still very angry with her ex-husband.) Q and I have a mutual friend who was sending her my morning texts. I gave our friend permission to give Q my number and email address because she, Q, had suggestions.  Most of them I’ve ignored.  Q feels, and seems to have made it her personal mission, to “correct” (her word not mine) the deficiencies she perceived were in my morning texts, and currently in my blog and its purpose. I want Q to understand this:

a.       No I don’t think for women to feel empowered or powerful they need to man bash. While I may post something that bash the brothers from time to time, this blog is about us - WOMEN. My man is my partner. I don’t need him to validate or valuate me. (two snaps in a circle!!) So, if you need a site where you can man bash all day this ain’t it BooBoo!!

b.      YOU NEED TO GET PAST YOUR MAD! Your life will never move forward if you don’t get past your mad and accept some complicated truths.  (1) That man, your ex-husband, will always be special to you.  You love him. He is the father of your children. And after all this time, you still miss him.  I’ll bet right now, 4 years later, you still know what he tastes like! But you don’t want him. (2) Things we love or want aren’t necessarily what we need.  The physical abuse was not healthy for you. You recognized that and left. (Applause! Applause!)  I’m sorry your leaving him didn’t make him become the angel you wanted him to be.  But reality check! If he was beating your ass before you married him…..!!  (3) You still have a lot of love left in you for someone else.  Someone who will treat and appreciate you the way you deserve it.  Those feelings you’re battling for the ex, stop it! Accept them! Lock them away in that special place! It’ll bring you peace. Cause right now you’re just tearing yourself up inside, making yourself miserable and,  intentionally or not, trying to drag others into it with you. 

Well I’m not going!! I hope any of my crazy random thoughts and pathetic attempts to be poetic will have some positive impact on your life.  Even if they do nothing but make you laugh. So as for my postings – past, present and future – no correction needed!!