Wake -up and recognize!!

Your man goes to work every day.  He makes sure the bills are paid, the garbage goes out, your cell phone is charged, and your car’s oil changed regularly.  He’s holding it down and never complaining.  He doesn’t even complain when you want to hang out with your crew on a Friday night, even though he was hoping the two of you would spend some time together. He’s a Good Man.

And you? Your chief concern is what designer label is slapped on your back or your pocketbook.  You’re more concerned about getting your hair, nails, and feet done.  You don’t feel like staying home with him.  He probably just wants to watch TV, and maybe have sex. You’re not looking forward to either: he likes to watch boring stuff, and sex with him just isn’t doing it for you.

Ok.

You hit the club with your crew.  During the evening you meet a guy who’s all that and a bag of chips.  Yeah, maybe a little extracurricular activity will take the edge off.  You call your Good Man to tell him you’re staying at Shonda’s tonight.  You’re thinking,”He’s such a dummy! He’ll believe anything I tell him!”

 You and your new boy toy grab a hotel room.  You pay for it because he forgot his Visa/Debit card and is short of cash.  He hits it just the right way in all the right places.  

More rendezvous at your expense.  

 Things are tense at home.  The Good Man can’t do anything right.  You can’t even stand for him to touch you. You wish he’d just leave! One day he does.  His heart ripped to shreds because he’d given you everything.  He’ll never be the same.

You move the boy toy out of his momma’s basement and into the home with you.  Yeah the sex is all that.  But he never has his part of the rent.  The lights have been turned off 3 times since he moved in.  You take out the garbage because all it does is cause an argument when you ask him to do it.  He loves to drive your car, but won’t help take care of it. You’re trying to hold it down, by yourself.  No more beauty parlor appointments, you can’t afford it.  You do your perms at home. Your feet and nails too.

Who’s the dummy now?

It may be true that the world can’t hold a good woman down, but it’s equally true that a woman can sure screw up a Good Man!

Wake up and recognize what you have!! If you have a Good Man hold on to him!

As for your boy toy: You take him out and play with him every now then, but make sure you put his ass back in the toy box!