Accept Who and What He is!!

This blog may be directed more to my friend W and S, but there are things we all need to remember.  

W:

BACKGROUND: She has a tendency to build an image of whoever is her latest love interest that is far from reality.  The bus driver becomes head of the depot.  The garbage man becomes the Director of Maintenance.  

If you – that means W and any other woman – can’t accept a man with whatever profession he may be in, then leave that man alone because nothing he does, or is, will ever be good enough for you.  If your man is making an honest dollar, be glad for him.  If he’s a bus driver tell folks he’s a bus driver.  In fact, it’s nobody’s business what he does for a living.  When you build this image that’s disconnected from reality, any disappointment is just that much more profound.

W, you were quick to tell everyone that your new love interest is a high school teacher and head of his department.  We now know, thanks to S (I’ll get to her in a minute), that he is in fact a janitor.  What? You have a problem with janitors?  If I am to believe the other stuff you’ve said, that man is good to you.  He treats you with respect.  Why can’t you treat him the same way? If the janitor isn’t good enough then let him go so that he can find someone who’s happy to have a good man who happens to work as a janitor.  The truth is, the insecurity is with you.  If you are unhappy with where you are professionally or socio-economically then do something about it.  Stop putting that kind of pressure on an unsuspecting guy.  When you try to build him up in the eyes of your friends you then want him to perform on that level.  Get a grip!!

S:

WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM?? Your life is so empty that you have time to investigate somebody elses man?  You aren’t even in the same damn state! Then, you have the audacity to start making phone calls to let people know what you learned.  We all know how W is.  But she has to deal with that man! Not any of us! And that includes you!!

What do you care if he’s a teacher or a janitor? Are you jealous? Are you afraid that she may have actually met a good man, who happens to hold some "high professional" position,  who cares for her?

Like me, you’re single, looking for Mr. Right. Focus on your own life! W will have to deal with her own problems and insecurities.

If you need something to do, investigate this: I’m having an affair with Barack Obama.  There was no cigar involved.  He used a cucumber instead.

We’ll wait for your damn report!!