You're a loving fool!

It’s his birthday and you have a very special evening planned.  You spent all day at the salon, and prepared an amazing dinner.  You plan to serve him in the hot new negligee you bought for the occasion.  You’re part of the dessert.  He’s supposed to be there at 7:30 and you want everything to be perfect.  You’ve put a lot of love into the evening. 

7:30 he hasn’t arrived….8:30…..10:00……you’ve been calling, and he hasn’t answered the house or cell phones.

He finally shows up about 11:00, telling you he had to help his cousin move.  Of course there  was no mention of a cousin, let alone helping one move, when you spoke with him earlier.  He likes the negligee, and the beautiful watch you bought him.  He’s not hungry but would appreciate your fixing a plate for him to take with him.  He’s not staying.  "Could you make two plates?" His cousin might want some. 

“Okay, so you’re heart is broken
You sit around mopin'
Cryin' and cryin'
You say you`re even thinkin' about dyin'
Well, before you do anything rash, dig this

Everybody plays the fool sometime
There's no exception to the rule
Listen, baby, it may be factual, may be cruel
I ain't lyin', everybody plays the fool”

It’s Saturday morning.  The two of you had a great night last night, and having breakfast with him his wonderful.  You’ve done all that you can to show this man how much you love him.  He tells you a friend of his is having a birthday party next weekend and he’s headed to the mall to buy a new outfit.  You get hopeful that he’ll ask you to go to the party with him.  That doesn’t happen.  You then suggest you go to the mall with him to help put an outfit together, but he declines the invite.  “I’ll call you”, he says as he heads out the door.

I hate to be the one to break this to you Boo, but you’re in love by yourself.  In fact, I would bet dollars to donuts you already knew that.  You just refuse to accept it. 

“Falling in love is such an easy thing to do
And there's no guarantee that the one you love
Is gonna love you

Oh-oh-oh, lovin' eyes they cannot see
A certain person could never be
Love runs deeper than any ocean
You can cloud your mind with emotion

You think if you just hold on and keep trying he’ll eventually see the light.  You do everything you can to create a romantic environment, treating him like a king, and giving him great sex (you know it’s great because he always tells you how good it is). 

You’re a little too old to be that naïve don’t you think? Great sex will keep a man coming back, for more great sex!! You may have that man’s body for a time, but you never had his heart.

“How can you help it when the music starts to play
And your ability to reason is swept away
Oh-oh-oh, heaven on earth is all you see
You're out of touch with reality
And now you cry but when you do
Next time around someone cries for you”

You have two options: 1. You can accept that you’re in love by yourself but keep doing what you’re doing hoping he’ll make you his one and only; or 2. You can put him in the maintenance man category, give him your body on your terms, and keep looking for Mr. Right.

The choice is yours!

“Everybody plays the fool, sometime
They use your heart like a tool
Listen, baby, they never tell you so in school
I want to say it again
Everybody plays the fool
Listen to me, baby
Everybody plays the fool, sometime
(No exception) no exception to the rule
It may be factual, may be cruel, sometime
But everybody plays the fool
Listen, listen, baby
Everybody plays the fool”

(“Everybody Plays the Fool” by The Main Ingredient)