Ummmmm……Is it me, or do there seem to be more and more brothers at the bus stop?
I mean, I realize everyone doesn’t have a car for one reason or another; or that some people don’t drive to work. If their employer doesn’t have a lot for employees then parking can be very expensive. High gas prices don’t help either. While I’m certainly not above using public transportation, I actually prefer it when travelling in and out of New York, it can limit the things you want to do.
But I still can’t help but wonder, "Why are there so many men at the bus stop?"
I know it sounds a bit stuck up, but I’m a little old fashioned, I don’t want to have to pick-up my date. I also don’t want to be the one doing all the driving. And if we’re in my car I’d be doing the driving!
I’m not one to let others drive my car even under the best of circumstances, and if your papers aren’t right you definitely aren’t getting hold of my keys!!
As I ponder this dilemma I think of all the sisters I know with boyfriends who have DMV problems; licenses revoked or suspended because of unpaid tickets, DUI charges, etc. These sisters still give these men the keys to the car, and then act surprised when they receive summonses because tickets he got while using the car haven’t been paid, and he failed to mention he’d gotten a ticket. If he didn’t pay the tickets on his car, why the heck are they surprised he didn’t pay the tickets on theirs?
Even worse, some of these brothers aren’t trying to take care of their DMV mess. Not trying to pay the fines, or do whatever they need to do to get their licenses back. They just skip along singing la la la while holding their hands out for your car keys. He wants to drive because he’s the man and should be the one driving you around. HA! Tell him to play big man with somebody elses ride.
Ladies, if you’re trying to go forward, then you want someone who’s trying to go forward too. We all make mistakes. But we also have to try to correct those mistakes.
A man not handling his business, sure as hell can’t help you handle yours!
I am that women who have let my man drive my car without license, I was taking my ex to work & picking him up. I did this for about six months. He was living with me I was trying to help him. He would never save money towards his license. I was moving forward, I thought but in reality I really was going backwards. Everything about this relationship with this man without a car took a toll on me. I was tired of getting up so early in the morning, going pass my job to get to his. Sitting in the car for a hour until work start for me. He did not care at all what he was doing to me. He took me for granted. When I would let him use my car knowing, that he did not have license, he would have been drinking. I knew I deserved better. It took 6 months to realize this is a dead end road.
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